• This is an initiative to move towards strengthening relationships and healing communities with compassionate care

    Over the past few months, I have thought a lot about my patients, my job, and healthcare in general. I found myself asking, “in what ways can I move the needle forward positively?” 

    I have wanted to look beyond the objective metrics, statistics, and measurable outcomes, to something–perhaps less measurable–yet still of great significance; something that moves the needle forward in how compassionate healthcare is delivered in Charleston and across America. I hope to start tipping the needle forward with this discussion.

    A Realized Need

    I’ve been in home healthcare for over 12 years. I often feel like I step into crisis after crisis, with “life” fires burning. It’s difficult to know where to start, and sometimes it’s easier to think “just add in a social worker and this will be fixed”. But I realize it’s far more complex. I’ve had to ask the question over and over “what does this patient need the most? And often, “why is it so hard to get it for them?”

    From what I have seen and experienced, I believe that the greatest unmet need for many of our patients is connection. Isolation and loneliness are impacting many lives in our community, and when health issues arise, it can deepen the separation. The loss of the ability to access community impacts the hearts of our patients, which long for the presence of others in their lives. This separation has ties not only to the physical, mental, and emotional well-being of our patients, but also our community as a whole. This leads me to wonder: What are we, individually and collectively, willing to do about this? And, what are healthcare organizations willing to do about this?

    As clinicians, the aim of our individual mission ties into our organization’s mission, and should be grounded in serving our patients well. We should want what is best for each patient we serve. Connecting well with our patients can lead to conversations and a greater understanding of what things are truly needed that can powerfully impact their situation and lead to long-term improvements in their life. I have seen patients’ lives changed by compassionate connection with the clinicians who are serving them.

    Connecting well with patients does not end with the benefit towards the patient. There’s a feedback loop in which both the patient and the clinician benefit. One from giving and one from receiving; often–when done well–both are able to give and receive. And this, in turn, extends to benefit their communities. 

    Expanding Compassionate Care

    An expanded vision of a compassionate care model for healthcare providers centered around strengthening and equipping their clinicians to provide and deliver more compassionate healthcare should focus on the community as a whole–the organizations providing the healthcare services, the clinicians living and working in the community, and patients in the community being served. When providers and clinicians are equipped and motivated to serve compassionately, and patients receive that service, I believe the community as a whole will flourish. The greater equipping of individual clinicians to serve compassionately may strengthen the organization (provider), enhance the patient-clinician and patient-provider relationships, and return benefits to the community in which the clinician and patient live.

    This implementation of this model, although not entirely new, can be unique in the sense that it should include a volunteer-driven, community-supported network designed to bring human connection to patients who are lonely, isolated, or in crisis. Through relationships and community, I believe tangible life needs will also be met. Take Charleston, for example: our city is full of places, groups, and people that are eager and willing to help bring connection, including local churches and non-profits. In a world where we are inundated with forms, papers, phone numbers, and wait-lists, we forget that there are human connections within reach, and there are ways to diminish the barriers to access these.

    This model is realistic here in Charleston; I believe it can be effectively implemented over time, through compassionate organizations and providers, community involvement, improved inter and intra-organizational communication and unity, better utilization of existing resources, and the energy and love of compassionate people willing to serve.

    A Providing, Unified, Community-Building Model Driven by Love

    Consider a perspective model in which relationships are strengthened so that the mission expands beyond the patient, and into the places and spaces that both the patient and the clinician serving them will go. Consider a greater equipping of the clinicians serving, and the benefits of patients who receive that service, extending beyond the patient; movement from their homes, to their families, their neighborhoods, to their workplace, to their stores, to churches and nonprofits, and to their communities. 

    A healthcare organization and providers focused on providing truly compassionate care will look not only towards the patient but beyond, understanding that the bond between patients and clinicians extends into their communities and is essential to the relational prospering of the city. Serving patients well extends to serving communities well. When the providers, clinicians, and patients are strengthened, our communities are strengthened. 

    But what truly has the power to transform communities? Behind any delivery of compassionate care is a corporate heart that is motivated by love and gratitude. The primary directional outflow of this love, implemented in compassionate healthcare delivery, is giving, not taking. This love moves forward and steps into hard situations and dark places. This love reaches into lives that are broken, hurting, suffering, and even hopeless. This love moves to protect the weak and the vulnerable. This love moves to serve each person because of the value of who they are. This love extends towards communities to bridge gaps, connect the isolated, and bring unity. This love acts to serve, even when it is difficult, or comes at a cost. This love walks into our communities and brings change.

    The power of a model driven by love, compassion, and gratitude, is that it can unite healthcare organizations and providers with the communities they are serving. The benefits of unity in the provider-clinician and clinician-patient relationships will bring greater unity in our communities and prosperity to our city.

    Moving Forward

    Healthcare organizations focus on providing and delivering excellent care, and current healthcare models focus on patient-centered care. While this is right and good, I want to see a well-balanced healthcare model in which clinicians and patients are each served well. I want to see healthcare organizations fully realizing and understanding the benefit of serving, equipped and strengthening the clinicians, for the benefit of the patient, the clinician, the organization (provider), and the community. I want to see our government and the offices of Medicare and Medicaid fully recognize the value of supporting these organizations in providing compassionate healthcare, as it will extend to communities across America. 

    There’s no simple formula to implement this into a model for compassionate health care, but starting with a conversation here, I hope, will move the needle a little farther forward. Let’s help our community; the time to act is now! 

    Are you in?

    Alex Gerber, Doctor of Physical Therapy, Founder, Gathered Charleston

    gerberxc@gmail.com

  • Rewritten from “4 Steps to Lasting Peace”

    Finding peace in the hardest times can feel like an impossibility. How do we not worry in the face of crushing darkness and the heat of the fire?

    Paul illuminates a pathway of lasting, mind-surpassing peace that is not dependent on the circumstances or situation we are in. 

    The Path

    Don’t worry. Pray. Tell God what you need. Thank Him. And direct your thoughts on Him.

    Pray!
    Cry out for help. Ask for strength; for courage; for hope; for peace; for protection. Tell Him what you need.

    Look for small things–a text from a friend, a call from a family member, an unexpected gift, words of encouragement. Coincidences? Or, signs of a God who truly loves us and is actively intervening on our behalf to work for our good, even in the fire. The slightest sliver of a crack in our eyelids to opening to see these things begins to bring light and gratitude into the darkness.

    When our eyes begin to open in gratitude, we can begin to know and fix our eyes on what is true: We are loved. This shifts the focus of our eyes (and minds) away from pain, darkness, and lies, towards the good things God has for us.

    The Outcome


    God’s peace is mindblowing! It is unshakeable. It is transformative. It is a new way of living. And it is readily available for everyone who searches for it, in every situation and circumstance! All we have to do is sincerely ask Him.

    Ask for this peace today! He is eager to give it. (From Philippians 4)

    Thoughts or Comments?
    gerberxc@gmail.com

  • A day late posting, but better now than never…😀

    Where do you find confidence and contentment? I’d love to know.

  • What’s leadership?

    Inviting you into exploring this question today…share your feedback on what you think!

    #leadership

  • Cold weather is a great time for reading. I’ve been intrigued by what I have been reading lately and want to share what has stuck out to me, especially as it relates to men and men’s growth. From digesting some solid reading content, I have begun to understand that these attributes flow out of a man who is offering his whole self–his mind, body, spirit, and soul, and every action that comes from those–as an act of worship to something greater than himself. This man is humbled in gratitude for what he has been given, and his life shows it. 

    • He doesn’t inflate his ego
    • He is honest and real in his self evaluation
    • He uses his gifts gladly and well
    • He loves others
    • He hates wrong 
    • He holds on to what is good
    • He enjoys honoring others
    • He works hard and serves
    • He celebrates with confident hope
    • He is patient in trouble
    • He helps those in need
    • He practices hospitality with eagerness 
    • He truly wants blessings and good for those who harm him
    • He is happy
    • He weeps
    • He enjoys “ordinary” people
    • He doesn’t think he knows it all 
    • He never pays back wrong with wrong
    • He does all things honorably
    • He lives in peace as much as he can with everyone
    • He does good, even to those who hate him 
    • He submits to authorities and leadership
    • He pays his taxes and owes nothing
    • He accepts others, especially those who are weaker than himself
    • He doesn’t condemn people
    • He helps others do what is right and builds them up
    • He lives rightly
    • He doesn’t have a hidden life 
    • He keeps praying! 

    Would you have anything to add?

    Notes: this isn’t a checklist for life. And from what I have seen and understood, these qualities are not self-produced.

    Moving Forward 

    →What are you living for? 

    →What are you surrendering yourself to? 

    →From those, what is flowing out in your life?

    Questions or comments? gerberxc@gmail.com 

  • A Letter for Healthcare Providers

    Stories, I believe, are the most powerful way to connect with another person. 

    As patients’ lives and stories are brought to where you work, you have an opportunity to connect in a way that will bring lasting impact to their lives. You become the face of your organization when you enter into their lives—What are you going to write into their story? 

    Your time and presence during difficult circumstances in patients’ lives has the power to leave a permanent impact. Knowing this, you can realize the significance of each conversation you have going forward, even if it just lasts for a minute.

    A Team Opportunity

    Your organization’s collective team is like a body: it has hands, feet, a head, and many faces. Each part has a role in bringing the heart of who you are into that patient’s story. From the first click of a mouse opening the referral email, to the door opening into their home or hospital room, to the final discharge sign off, we–healthcare providers–are given the privilege to bring our presence and our love into each patient’s story. There is an opportunity to have an impact every time you step into a patient’s hospital room or pick up the phone to call them.

    I believe there is a reason you are the one connecting with them. It is not a coincidence. You are there, with them, for a good reason. Choose to serve through compassion and love, and you will bring patients what they need in their encounters with you during their journey. 

    Lead with love, listen well, don’t be afraid of vulnerability, and look for your opportunity to connect and bring good to your patients today. Consider where parts of your own story might bring connection and relatability with them. 

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    Questions for Consideration:

    • What is your individual role in their story?
    • How can you best communicate their story and what holds value for them to the other clinicians and staff on the team serving them?
    • What are some internal barriers that you face when connecting with your patients in the moments you have with them?

    Put in Practice

    • As a healthcare provider, ask, “what does my patient need the most, right now?” 
    • Moving forward, how can you be attentive to your presence in patients’ stories and connect most deeply with them?
    • Look for an opportunity in your interaction to truly encourage and build them up–words matter!

    I would encourage you to follow this path to serve well… →Listen. Ask. Listen. Act.

    “True service is often an unselfish act that goes beyond a job or obligation, focusing on genuinely improving another person’s life, often requiring personal sacrifice.”

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    Alex Gerber, Doctor of Physical Therapy, Charleston, SC

    gerberxc@gmail.com

  • Moving Forward aims to build up men and women; here we hope to build up divorced dads for stronger father-child relationships and families.

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    For men, divorce is often filled with feelings of guilt and shame. For fathers, it may also come with a loss of time with children, which can feel crushing. In my divorce, I remember wondering if there was any hope for what I had lost. 

    I’ve heard about how important the amount of time fathers have with their children is. But what happens when that time is taken away through divorce? In a world where time with our children is already competing against other things in the busyness of life and work, where do divorced dads look for hope when faced with more loss of time with their kids?

    Dads–I hope here to offer you a chance to shape your perspective and find opportunity for deeper relationships with your children, even in the aftermath of divorce. I believe that stronger connections and a hopeful future–even with less time–can become reality. 

    I have seen 3 necessary elements for the kind of soil needed to grow and deepen a divorced dad’s relationships with his children; they are…

    • A changed perspective
    • Living wisely
    • A softened heart 

    Perspective Change

    Shifting focus from loss to what can be gained can feel impossible in divorce. You might wonder, “How can I possibly look ahead hopefully, when my time is cut with my kids?” But, there is an opportunity for good and gain within those relationships. Understanding that the small things you are currently doing to build deeper relationships with your children can grow into large things in the future may motivate you to invest in what’s here and now.

    This perspective shift doesn’t happen overnight; be patient, and look up ahead. 

    Living Wisely

    In divorce, a man can find opportunity. An opportunity to examine his life and reflect on what really matters. There will be opportunities to build deeper relationships with your kids in whatever time arrangement you have. These opportunities may be less than before, so be wise and make them count. Be present and intentional with your children. Invest the time you do have wisely. I have seen redemption happen in these relationships and I believe the future harvest of your present efforts can be great. 

    Look for moments of opportunity–and keep a long-term perspective in mind; this will help when you don’t feel like things are moving ahead as you would like them to. 

    A Softened Heart

    The humbling nature of going through divorce can be–for any of us men–an opportunity for a softer heart, especially towards our children. Understanding what our children are going through in a divorce may lead to greater empathy and more intentional investment ahead. Our kids are perceptive– they will likely sense what direction our hearts are turning. Is your heart turning towards them? Where your heart goes, your time will follow.

    Closing Out: Redemption

    The one thing I’ve told many people is that the half-time I have now is richer than the full-time I had before. I have seen God redeem the time I have with my girls in great ways. And while I’ve heard that time is the one resource that cannot be stored, controlled, or recovered, it can be redeemed. 

    If your situation feels bleak; if your past is a wreck; if your future feels hopeless, know this—God is the great Redeemer. Don’t lose hope! 

    Your agreement is not the holder of your future; He is. Draw near to Him today and invest your heart and time in a relationship with Him. He redeems those who turn to Him. 

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    Moving Forward

    Practically, begin to build small habits for big future change. 

    →Consider making sure your phone is put away for dinner time and prioritize a sit-down dinner with your children on the nights you have them. Even if dinner just lasts 15 minutes. Be present.

    →Be present for bedtime. Screens/phones away, have some time to answer their questions and listen to their imagination speak, especially if they are younger. 

    →When your children are away, look for opportunities to invest your time in other good ways. (More on this, later)

    →Aim your heart towards loving and caring for your children’s hearts well. This will not go without future fruit. 

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    Ephesians 5:15-17: So be careful how you live. Don’t live like fools, but like those who are wise. Make the most of every opportunity in these evil days. Don’t act thoughtlessly, but understand what the Lord wants you to do. 

    Questions or comments? gerberxc@gmail.com

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    Shame and guilt over loss can limit forward progress and relational growth with our children; moving through these feelings is critical for men. Working through these requires support and often professional resources. Consider a local counselor to help with this. 

  • I love that we have access to evidence of Paul’s prayer life! His prayers are confident, powerful and specific. I personally wanted to better understand how Paul prayed because I believe it will shape my own prayers. I am sharing this in the hopes that it will also influence yours. 

    I have found that the first chapter of Colossians reveals much about confident prayer, and I will unpack some of it here. 

    Please note I’m not a theologian😁; this is simply my personal insight from reading the text and doing my own deep dive.

    Colossians 1:4-8: A Natural Flow Towards Prayer

    [4] For we have heard of your faith in Christ Jesus and your love for all of God’s people, [5] which come from your confident hope of what God has reserved for you in heaven. You have had this expectation ever since you first heard the truth of the Good News. [6] This same Good News that came to you is going out all over the world. It is bearing fruit everywhere by changing lives, just as it changed your lives from the day you first heard and understood the truth about God’s wonderful grace. [7] You learned about the Good News from Epaphras, our beloved co-worker. He is Christ’s faithful servant, and he is helping us on your behalf. [8] He has told us about the love for others that the Holy Spirit has given you.

    I want to point out here that I see several things happening. First, Paul and others have heard of the Colossians’ faith and love. Paul links this to their hearing the truth of the Good News, the Gospel. This is tied to the sharing of this Good News with them by Epaphras. There is a definite flow to what is happening in this passage, and it links to prayer.

    Paul states that this is THE same Good News that is going around the world and changing lives through an understanding of the truth of God’s wonderful grace.

    What happens when this Good News is heard and truly understood? Lives are changed and transformed. 

    Note that confident hope comes with understanding and experiencing the good news on a personal level. This hope is settled and sure. The Greek word is Elpis. It’s not wishful thinking. It is a future assurance based on objective knowing. It is an expectation! This knowing and assurance of what heaven holds leads to a life in which faith and love grow. Both faith and love come from this confident hope. Paul also provides insight here that love is a gift given from the Holy Spirit.

    I believe that this section ties well into the next, regarding prayer.

    Colossians 1:9-12: Confident Prayer

    [9] So we have not stopped praying for you since we first heard about you. We ask God to give you complete knowledge of his will and to give you spiritual wisdom and understanding. [10] Then the way you live will always honor and please the Lord, and your lives will produce every kind of good fruit. All the while, you will grow as you learn to know God better and better. [11] We also pray that you will be strengthened with all his glorious power so you will have all the endurance and patience you need. May you be filled with joy, [12] always thanking the Father. He has enabled you to share in the inheritance that belongs to his people, who live in the light. 

    In Paul’s prayer here to the Colossians, he asks for several things. He asks God to give the Colossians grace and peace. These 2 things are mentioned in 13 of Paul’s letters as his signature blessing. And here in Colossians, he also asks God to give them complete knowledge of His will, spiritual wisdom, and understanding. He prays that they will be strengthened, so that they will have endurance and patience. He also asks that they will be filled with joy and constant gratitude to God.

    To summarize, he prays for:

    • Grace and peace
    • Complete knowledge of God’s will
    • Spiritual wisdom and understanding 
    • Strength fueled by God’s power
    • Endurance and patience
    • Joy
    • Constant gratitude 

    The presence of these elements in the life of someone who has been transformed by hearing the Good News is a beautiful thing and reveals an abundant life!

    What I Learned

    These 9 verses alone are packed with richness. To me, they brought a greater understanding of where my hope and assurance lies, the certainty of heaven and what is stored in the future, as well as how to pray more confidently and specifically in the present. 

    Prayer is critical! I can’t imagine that it would be revealed in such detail in the Word if it was not important. I’m so thankful for Paul’s prayers because they have been bringing me a greater understanding of how to pray. I want powerful, effective, and confident prayer! But above all, I want prayer that is genuine, and from my heart.

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    Moving Forward

    What have you learned here about prayer, and how will it impact your prayers?

    Questions or comments? gerberxc@gmail.com

    In case you missed, find Part 1 on Prayer here: https://movingforwardcontent.com/2025/12/28/powerful-prayer/

  • I recently found myself reflecting on prayer, and wondering how to pray more effectively and specifically. In this 2-part writing and video series, I want to share what I have been learning through exploring parts of the New Testament and Paul’s prayers. I hope it will positively impact your prayer life. 

    Unpacking Powerful Prayer

    The apostle Paul’s prayers are featured often throughout the New Testament of the Bible; his prayers provide a good demonstration for what God-aligned prayer looks like. 

    If I want to incorporate the key elements of Paul’s prayers in my own, I began to understand that I might pray like this:

    “Lord, I want to know you deeper each day. Please give me wisdom. Help me to live my life well. Please give me strength, and shape me. Help me to love greater! Please allow fruit to grow in my life and my relationships. Please keep me unified with others. Anchor me in Your hope. Let my life bring You glory!”

    Diving In

    Lord, I want to know you deeper each day.

    Paul–like David–wants to truly know God and wants the same for others. This means having a real, intimate relationship with God.

    Colossians 1:9–10 – “That you may be filled with the knowledge of his will… growing in the knowledge of God”

    Ephesians 1:17 – “That the God of our Lord Jesus Christ… may give you the Spirit of wisdom and revelation in the knowledge of him”

    Philippians 3:10 – “That I may know him…”

    Please give me wisdom.

    It is amazing that we can ask for wisdom; rightly applying what we know about God to our lives and decisions is the fruit of Godly wisdom. 

    Colossians 1:9 – “Spiritual wisdom and understanding”

    Philippians 1:9–10 – “That your love may abound… with knowledge and discernment”

    Romans 12:2 – “That you may discern what is the will of God”

    Help me to live my life well.

    How we live matters. Our behavior reflects our heart, and reveals it to others. To me, this speaks to being an ambassador for Christ and representing him well.

    Colossians 1:10 – “Walk in a manner worthy of the Lord”

    Ephesians 4:1 – “Walk in a manner worthy of the calling”

    1 Thessalonians 2:12 – “Walk worthy of God”

    Please give me strength, and shape me. 

    This reveals the reality that life is not easy and we are weak. This request is inwardly focused (character) for outward good (purpose). And, we can always ask for this, regardless of our circumstances or other people’s behavior.

    Colossians 1:11 – “Strengthened with all power… for endurance and patience with joy”

    Ephesians 3:16 – “Strengthened with power through his Spirit in your inner being”

    2 Thessalonians 1:11 – “That God may fulfill every resolve for good”

    Help me to love greater!

    The greatest demonstration of a life changed is the presence of love, lived out. A man is measured by how he loves; Love is his legacy.

    Ephesians 3:17–19 – “That you… may have strength to comprehend the love of Christ”

    Philippians 1:9 – “That your love may abound more and more”

    Romans 5:5 – “God’s love has been poured into our hearts”

    Please allow fruit to grow in my life and my relationships.

    Fruit is evidence and witness. Fruit brings good, not only to ourselves, but to the people around us and in our life.

    Colossians 1:10 – “Bearing fruit in every good work”

    Philippians 1:11 – “Filled with the fruit of righteousness”

    Galatians 5:22–23 – Fruit of the Spirit

    Please keep me unified with others.

    Conflicts are inevitable but unity is the hope. Be someone who seeks harmony with others and takes action to forgive, reconcile relationships, and restore unity as much as is possible, believing that God will lead and do the work.

    Ephesians 4:1–6 – “Maintain the unity of the Spirit”

    Romans 15:5–6 – “Live in harmony with one another”

    Philippians 2:1–2 – “Be of the same mind”

    Anchor me in Your hope.

    This anchor is not lodged into anything circumstantial, or anything that can be taken or removed or disrupted. This anchor is rooted in hope in the immovable Sustainer and Creator, God himself!

    Ephesians 1:18 – “That you may know the hope to which he has called you”

    Romans 15:13 – “May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace”

    2 Corinthians 4:16–18 – Focus on eternal glory

    Let my life bring You glory!”

    There’s no way to more simply state the purpose, intention, and mission for our life: to bring Him glory!

    Philippians 1:11 – “To the glory and praise of God”

    Ephesians 3:20–21 – “To him be glory in the church”

    Romans 11:36 – “To him be glory forever”

    To me, the prayers I have found in the New Testament by Paul seem to often be prayers for others. It feels important to note this, because I think it reveals that Paul’s heart is often for others and desiring that they would have a rich relationship with God. 

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    Takeaway

    I want a rich prayer life. I want powerful prayer. I want prayer that aligns with God’s word and God’s will. I want to pray well, often, and for others. 

    What do you want? 

    I hope that having a better understanding of how Paul prays will help you in your communication, prayer, and relationship with God, today. 

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    Moving Forward

    Do you find elements of your prayers here?

    Is there anything you can use or apply from this to your own prayer life?

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    Questions or comments? gerberxc@gmail.com